Radio interview on Fame FM 103.3 with Sana Nasr at 8:30 am on June 12, of June 2017
To listen to the interview click on the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VCSaxWxMg7E
Build Self-confidence using the goal setting process
Posted by: Nena Chalhoub
Self-confidence is the power of whatever you want to achieve in life, the more you believe in yourself the more getting to where you want would be easier. Even though building self-confidence is not that easy. The more you work on your abilities the more you can develop and build your self-confidence.
In this interview, we are talking about self-confidence for Adults, even though self-esteem starts to be built since childhood and this is mostly the role of the parents. If you become an adult and still lake self-confidence, take into consideration the following:
It’s important to know that there is nothing that can’t be fixed, all you need is the will to overcome what is holding you back, even though it gets harder with age. Usually, we know that we have low self-confidence and in which area, but there is no one to blame, there is no awareness about self-development in our educational systems, especially in schools. It’s a must to work on personal self-development and abilities of the students that will make them achieve a lot more in their personal and professional life.
When you feel uncomfortable in some or all areas of your life; ex: in society, with friends, workplace… The main issue, that we never know what exactly the problem is. Set a goal to build your self-confidence because it’s your key to success, It could be within your home, friends, family, kids… We feel insecure in many situations but the core of the problem is that we don’t know exactly what it is.
The best way to figure it out and deal with it is to sit alone, concentrate, dig deep inside and ask yourself, write down the answers:
- What does self-confidence mean to you?
- What is stopping you from loving yourself?
- Why and what exactly is stopping you from succeeding?
For example, if you are not comfortable with your look, state exactly what it is? When you start finding the exact answers, then you can find the right solution. Do you not feel comfortable with your look, hair, face, body…? are you not satisfied with your educational level, your work, car…? When you see other people have things that you don’t have and you envy, this causes you to feel less when you don’t have self-confidence.
Then imagine yourself having what makes you feel uncomfortable, visualize you have the hair, the body, the man, the job… you always wanted! How does possessing what you always wanted makes you feel? then write it down. Writing down your goals gives completely different results than inner thinking or talking with someone. If you feel that this is the right answer then you can start working on building your self-confidence. Remember, every problem has a solution.
Every time we want to do something, we spontaneously think about doing it in a perfect way.
“There is nothing such as perfection”. No one ever was perfect and no one will ever be. Just always try to do your best. Don’t let anyone put you down, making you believe that they are perfect and you are not. The more you love and trust yourself the more you will never accept anyone to treat you less than you deserve and you become unbeatable. It’s like wearing a bulletproof vest.
In many cases, we would like to hear other people’s opinion and comments about us so we can work on our self-improvement. To get better results sometimes we need these comments and feedbacks from people that we trust, but On the other hand, don’t let destructive people pull you down or hurt your feelings. Be aware of the type of criticism not everyone around wants what is best for you.
Usually, you give yourselves a credit when you do something right, on the other hand when you do something wrong you feel ashamed. Everyone makes mistakes, what makes the difference is to know what you did wrong and learn from your mistake.
We need to control our self-talks and use positive words because they are orders to your brain that will act accordingly, so watch the words you feed your brain with. “Stay positive” is not only a slogan.
There is a big role for the body language in reflecting and communicating with your self-confidence:
- 55% your body language
- 38% is the tone of voice
- 7% is the actual words
The way you enter, walk, sit, move, behave… reflects the level of your self-confidence.
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After all, you need to surround yourself with people you trust, people who love you, and want what is best for you. Stay away from harmful people, there is no interest to keep them around.